I enjoy getting feedback about my artwork. I love the warm glow of pride and accomplishment I feel when a friend compliments what I have done. But to improve, I need to hear about what doesn’t work.
I have four close friends with whom I share much of my work, often during the “in progress” phase. I shall call them “A”, “B”, “C”, and “D”. These guys are some of my best friends, I’ve known them for years, and they would not lie to me. However, some of them give me feedback that helps me improve, and some of them just appreciate anything I do. Both of those are equally important.
A and C pretty much like everything I do. I feel proud when they enjoy something I’ve created. They keep me going, they keep me positive and open, they keep me dreaming. Sometimes, if I’m feeling vulnerable, I’ll only share with them.
A is gregarious and complimentary. He’s the friend who will always tell you that you are awesome and will always have your back. Every piece I share with him gets responses of awe and joy. I can always count on him to lift my spirits and encourage me.
C is laidback and steady in (almost) everything, and I can count on a “Nice!” from him. He’s my rock. Steadfast, loyal, and supportive of everything I do. (Okay, fine, I should have just put his name – Jason, my husband.)
B and D challenge me to do better. They keep me from becoming arrogant, they keep my eyes open to the truth, they keep me grounded. When I need help figuring out where I’m going wrong, I ask them.
B critiques each piece. Tells me where he thinks it might go, what he likes about it, and if there are any glaring… not “mistakes” but… things that are maybe out of place or don’t quite fit. He is always kind about it and I always know he won’t say anything too far to the “no” side of things.
D does not pull punches. He’s never once been unkind, but I know full well that he will tell me the truth. He tells me when I get cocky and when I am not seeing “the common man’s view.” I can count on him to tell me I’ve left the path and then nudge me back onto it.
I love all four of these wonderful friends. I honestly don’t think I’d be creating without them: cheerleader, rock, supportive critic, and truth-speaker, they keep me creating.
I encourage you to find these people in your life and appreciate what they do for you.